Right before Christmas Liam got really into Pokemon cards. I will admit that I was pretty surprised since I thought that it was for much younger kids (of course have kept that sentiment to myself). He was gifted some cards over Christmas and went and purchased some with his own money a week ago. Today he and I had to go to Walmart to pick up a gift for one of his freinds’ birthdays and he asked to get more Pokemon cards and I said no. He wished to look at the and I said that was fine. He pawed through all of the different packages and told me all sorts of stuff about “Fairy types” and “Evolution” of this, that, and the other. I left him to his devices for a bit and when we reunited he wanted to show me what he had found. It was a box of Pokemon cards which had all of the evolutions of one of the characters that he REALLY wanted. Let me say that that is NOT like Liam at all – once he is told No, he always just drops it and can walk away from whatever it was. I persisted that, he had just bought cards last week and that collections take time to collect. I added that things that you have to wait for are always better. Then he says, “I’ll make you a deal” which is TOTALLY something I would say. He says that if I let him buy the cards today that he won’t buy any more cards for two months! Hmmm, interesting I think to myself. Since Liam is a “rule-follower” I know that a deal with him is as good as gold – his word really his bond. I’m thinking this is actually a pretty good deal….I don’t have to buy anything (he is) plus I won’t be pestered to go to Walmart for two months, plus he’ll learn that things that you truly want are worth waiting for. I relent to his deal and am immediately and emphatically embraced and showered with gratitude and flattery about being the best Mom ever.
I am reflecting that this was a pretty good “parent” moment., and here’s why: I feel pleased that I took the time to hear him out, that we both felt comfortable sharing our differing views with one another, and that we could compromise on a solution that we were both happy with. A small parenting success.